由「教」到「引導」：我學識咗留一個空間｜From Teaching to Guiding: Learning to Leave Some Space

我以前講得太多 ｜ I used to talk too much

陪家長行呢條路咁耐，我都有試過自以為做得啱，後來先發覺唔係。

嗰陣我以為，家長嚟搵我，就係想快啲有答案。所以以前同家長傾，我好多時用教導式：一見到問題，就好想即刻講答案、講方法。一講就講好多。講完自己覺得好充實，以為幫到手。但慢慢我發覺，其實我錯咗，我講得太多嘢。而家回頭睇，我明白點解：講得太多，家長就冇晒位置去諗；嗰啲方法係我嘅，唔係佢哋自己諗出嚟嘅。

After walking this road with parents for so long, there have been times I thought I was doing the right thing, only to realise later that I wasn't.

Back then I assumed that parents came to me wanting answers quickly. So when I talked with them, I often took a teaching approach. As soon as I saw a problem, I wanted to give the answer and the method straight away, and I would say a lot. Afterwards I would feel I had given plenty and helped. But gradually I realised I was wrong. I was saying far too much. Looking back now, I can see why: when I said too much, parents had no room left to think, and those methods were mine, not something they had worked out for themselves.

引導：留個空間俾佢諗 ｜ Guiding: leaving room to think

我應該做嘅，係用引導式，等家長自己去諗。

喺呢個過程入面，我慢慢領悟到：引導係一種好緊要嘅方法。問一個問題，然後停一停，等一等，俾個空間佢哋自己諗吓。無論係家長定係孩子，自己諗出嚟嘅嘢，同聽人講出嚟嘅嘢，感覺好唔同。我覺得，咁樣對佢哋點樣動腦、點樣明白事情，都有好唔同嘅感覺。

引導唔係唔講，而係講少啲、聽多啲、等多啲。例如唔係直接話「你應該點做」，而係問一句：「你覺得佢嗰陣想同你講咩？」然後靜靜地等家長自己諗。有時要等好耐，有時答案同我心目中嘅唔同，但嗰個答案係屬於佢哋自己嘅。

What I should have been doing was guiding, and letting parents think things through for themselves.

Over time I came to understand that guiding is a really important way of working. Ask a question, then pause, wait, and give people room to think it over. Whether it is a parent or a child, something they work out themselves feels very different from something they are told. I feel it makes a real difference to how they use their minds and how they come to understand things.

Guiding doesn't mean saying nothing. It means saying less, listening more and waiting longer. For example, instead of saying "This is what you should do," I might ask, "What do you think your child was trying to tell you then?" and then quietly wait for the parent to think it through. Sometimes the wait is long, and sometimes the answer is different from the one in my head, but that answer belongs to them.

一位一直同行嘅家長 ｜ A parent who is still walking with us

講到改變，我一定會諗起一位家長。佢到今日仍然喺我哋身邊，一齊同行。

佢唔單止改變咗自己，亦改變咗佢嘅孩子，甚至改變咗成個火星學堂嘅氛圍。佢一路都喺度幫手，而家仲成為咗我哋火星學堂嘅導師，到今日都一直影響緊我哋。

每次見到佢，我都會提醒自己：家長本身就有好大嘅力量。我要做嘅，唔係講多啲，而係留多啲空間。

Whenever I think about change, I think of one parent in particular. They are still by our side today, walking with us.

This parent didn't only change themselves. They also changed their child, and even changed the whole atmosphere at Mars CRP Academy. They have been there helping all along, have since become one of our tutors at the academy, and continue to influence us to this day.

Every time I see them, I remind myself that parents already carry great strength. My job is not to say more, but to leave more room.

唔好單打獨鬥 ｜ Don't go it alone

如果你啱啱開始行呢條路，我只想同你講一句說話：

「唔好單打獨鬥。」

我哋要成班人一齊，互相支援。照顧孩子係一條長路，一個人行好易攰。唔好匿埋自己一個人做。有人同行，路會易行好多。同行嘅可以係另一位家長、一班一齊學習嘅朋友，或者身邊信得過嘅人。互相分享，互相打氣，你會發覺自己唔係孤單一個。

If you are just starting out on this road, there is only one thing I want to tell you:

"Don't go it alone."

We need to be a group of people supporting one another. Raising a child is a long road, and walking it alone wears you out. Don't hide away and try to do it all by yourself. With others walking beside you, the road becomes much easier. Those walking with you could be another parent, a group of friends learning together, or someone close whom you trust. Share with each other and cheer each other on, and you will find you are not alone.

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課程同預約 ｜ Courses and bookings

課程、收費同預約由火星學堂另行處理，請瀏覽 marspower.hk。

Courses, fees and bookings are handled separately by Mars CRP Academy. Please visit marspower.hk.

利益披露 ｜ Disclosure

周Sir 係火星學堂（Mars CRP Academy Limited，提供收費課程）嘅唯一董事及唯一股東，於該機構有經濟利益。

Chau Sir is the sole director and sole shareholder of Mars CRP Academy Limited (火星學堂), which offers paid courses, and has a financial interest in it.

聲明 ｜ Note

本文係周Sir 分享個人經驗同體會，唔係專業意見；如有需要，請諮詢合資格專業人士。

This article shares Chau Sir's personal experience and reflections. It is not professional advice. If needed, please consult a qualified professional.

本文由 AI 協助整理。

Prepared with AI assistance.