Caring for the Carer: What Research Says About How Parents Cope with Stress
Byline: Chau Sir / chausir.com
This article summarises public research with AI assistance.
What the study looked at
A research team from the School of Psychology at Central China Normal University published a systematic review and meta-analysis in 2025. It combined 20 studies with a total of 2,725 parents of autistic children, looking at the ways parents cope with stress and how these relate to the parenting stress they feel. [1]
Four ways of coping
The study grouped parents' coping into four types: - Engaging: facing the problem, working out options, and reaching out for support - Distraction: turning attention to other things for a while - Disengaging: avoiding the problem or giving up on it - Reframing: trying to see what is happening from a different angle [1]
What the study found
Parents who used more engaging coping tended to report slightly lower stress, although this link was small. Parents who used more distraction or disengaging coping tended to report higher stress. Reframing showed no clear link with stress. The study also found that parents' education level affected how strong these links were. The authors suggest that education and support programmes for parents may help reduce parents' stress. [1]
Reading the findings with care
Most of these studies used questionnaires filled in at a single point in time, so they can only show that things are linked, not that one way of coping will lower stress. It may also work the other way round: when stress is high, people naturally want to step away. So these findings do not mean any parent is "doing it wrong". They are a reminder that feeling stressed is a very normal response. [1]
Small steps for Hong Kong parents
Parents in Hong Kong often juggle work, waiting lists, homework and all kinds of class schedules, with little time left for themselves. This research reminds us that talking with others and dealing with things one step at a time are linked with lower stress, while holding everything in alone for a long time may let stress build up. You might try: - Each week, pick the one thing that worries you most and write down a single small next step, without trying to sort everything out at once - Spend ten minutes talking with someone you trust, or with another parent who has walked a similar road - Share tasks with your partner or family, and keep a little time each week for yourself If you feel low for a long time or things feel too much, you can call the Government's 18111 Mental Health Support Hotline (情緒通, 24 hours). In immediate danger, call 999. [2]
Looking after yourself is part of looking after your child.
Sources
1. Mo, S., Li, S., & Jin, Z. (2025). Parental Stress and Coping Strategies in Parents of Children with Autism Spectrum Disorders: A Systematic Review and Meta-Analysis. Review Journal of Autism and Developmental Disorders. Published online 4 June 2025. https://doi.org/10.1007/s40489-025-00509-x 2. HKSAR Government press release (27 Dec 2023), 24-hour Mental Health Support Hotline 18111. https://www.info.gov.hk/gia/general/202312/27/P2023122700238.htm
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